HOW TO ‘SELF-DRIVE’ YOUR DIVORCE

When I meet clients for the first time, I find that they often have a pre-conceived idea that the job of their family lawyer is to ‘file’ their case with the Court, and await a hearing.  I am surprised that the perception of our legal system is that those who are enduring separation and divorce…

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR BUSINESS IN YOUR DIVORCE

One of the biggest causes of divorce is financial problems.  But one of the biggest causes of business failure is divorce.   Make no bones about it, divorce is rough on business.  Any business owned by parties enduring separation and divorce will be poked and prodded.  The business may suddenly be called on to meet…

THREE THINGS TO ASK YOUR LAWYER BEFORE YOU SEPARATE

It seems like an oxymoron – a lawyer asking their client whether they really need their services – but any family lawyer will tell you that we regularly meet people who, when introducing themselves for the first time, hasten to explain that they are “not actually separated yet”.   Those people have thought seriously about…

LETTING GO – HOW TO COMMUNICATE AFTER SEPARATION, AND KEEP YOUR SANITY

In my experience, the most bitter post-separation relationships started out harmlessly enough – guarded but functional.   However, at some point the taking of pot shots at each other led to passive-aggressive emails and terse voice mails.   Pretty soon things had escalated to the point where a simple text message on a very pedestrian…

YOUR DIVORCE IS REALLY A ‘NUMBERS GAME’ – SO WATCH YOUR ‘PROFITS’

It sounds mercenary, but your property settlement, in which you deal with the financial consequences of separation or divorce, is really just a commercial transaction.  An important and life-changing financial ‘deal’, but a transaction nevertheless.   To examine whether that transaction has been favourable for you, the cost of its completion must be measured against…

THE HIDDEN COSTS OF DIVORCE

Outcomes achieved after separation and divorce are often measured by their ‘cost’ – after those costs have been paid, can the outcome be considered a success?   The cost which immediately comes to mind when assessing a settlement outcome is legal fees – the professional fees you pay to your lawyers, and the experts used…

MANAGING TOXIC COMMUNICATION – 5 steps before you press ‘send’

In last week’s blog (‘Honey catches more flies than vinegar – 5 tips to change toxic communication’) I wrote about changing the way we interact with our former partners and co-parents, so as to remove toxic communication from daily life.   I had some really interesting questions emailed through to me.  Feedback was largely that…

WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A HOLE, STOP DIGGING

  WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A HOLE, STOP DIGGING     When enduring a family law matter, whether a separation, or a parenting dispute, you will have a particular objective in mind.     Your family lawyer will not only advise you whether that objective is achievable or not, but will also advise of…

IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY

IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY   So you are ready for battle.   You have chosen a family lawyer.  Letters are beginning to pass back and forth between your, and your partners’, lawyers.  You have gathered up a long list of financial documents.  Your lawyer has introduced you to a financial planner to begin…