GET ME OUTTA HERE! I’M TRAPPED IN THE FAMILY COURTS AND I NEED AN ‘EXIT’

I am consulted all the time by people who are ‘caught in the system’ after relationship breakdown – they, or their former partner, have commenced Court proceedings, seeking financial orders, but there is no discernible forward movement.  They’re ‘stuck’ – they can’t ‘exit’ the system, because they are unable to reach an agreement with their…

HOW TO ‘SELF-DRIVE’ YOUR DIVORCE

When I meet clients for the first time, I find that they often have a pre-conceived idea that the job of their family lawyer is to ‘file’ their case with the Court, and await a hearing.  I am surprised that the perception of our legal system is that those who are enduring separation and divorce…

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR BUSINESS IN YOUR DIVORCE

One of the biggest causes of divorce is financial problems.  But one of the biggest causes of business failure is divorce.   Make no bones about it, divorce is rough on business.  Any business owned by parties enduring separation and divorce will be poked and prodded.  The business may suddenly be called on to meet…

THREE THINGS TO ASK YOUR LAWYER BEFORE YOU SEPARATE

It seems like an oxymoron – a lawyer asking their client whether they really need their services – but any family lawyer will tell you that we regularly meet people who, when introducing themselves for the first time, hasten to explain that they are “not actually separated yet”.   Those people have thought seriously about…

LETTING GO – HOW TO COMMUNICATE AFTER SEPARATION, AND KEEP YOUR SANITY

In my experience, the most bitter post-separation relationships started out harmlessly enough – guarded but functional.   However, at some point the taking of pot shots at each other led to passive-aggressive emails and terse voice mails.   Pretty soon things had escalated to the point where a simple text message on a very pedestrian…

YOUR DIVORCE IS REALLY A ‘NUMBERS GAME’ – SO WATCH YOUR ‘PROFITS’

It sounds mercenary, but your property settlement, in which you deal with the financial consequences of separation or divorce, is really just a commercial transaction.  An important and life-changing financial ‘deal’, but a transaction nevertheless.   To examine whether that transaction has been favourable for you, the cost of its completion must be measured against…