Life can feel like suspended animation for those who separated prior to, or during, the Covid lockdowns, and have been caught up in a ‘separated under the one roof’ situation ever since. Money can be tight for those on furlough or reduced hours, and rental accommodation can be hard to come by, creating a strange…
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SO YOU ARE SEPARATED … BUT ARE YOU STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EX, WITHOUT KNOWING IT?
Relationships fall on a spectrum of emotions, and our default view is to see them at their most positive – people form, and remain in, relationships and marriages when they are in love. But at the other end of that spectrum lies love’s equal and opposite number, hate. When people separate, it is natural…
REVENGE – A DISH BEST SERVED … NOT AT ALL
When people who have separated first see a family lawyer, they are, understandably, experiencing the full gamut of emotions – shock, despair, anger. How they feel can change from hour to hour, and day to day. As their case progresses, their feelings can become more fixed. Some feel an acceptance, and simply want to…
MY FAMILY LAW CASE IS STALLED – HOW DO I GET TO A SETTLEMENT?
January inevitably begins with palpable gusto. For business owners and entrepreneurs, there are new targets to hit, new products to launch, new markets to tap into. For professionals, there are new year’s resolutions to advance their careers and improve their personal lives. For parents, there are goals to achieve for their kids’ education and…
DROWNING IN YOUR DIVORCE? TIME TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT
Old adage, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The same is true of your separation and divorce. When I meet people for the first time, they often tell me that they are feeling overcome. There are so many problems, and they seem to grow by the day. They…
HOW TO GET A PRE-NUP OVER THE LINE
This article is Part 2 in the series ‘Pre-Nups – The Death of Love?’. So, you want in a pre-nup (in Australia, called a ‘Financial Agreement’) in place? If ‘yes’, you aren’t alone. More and more people are thinking about them, and putting them in place when they marry, they begin new relationships,…
IS BEING ‘UNHAPPY’ REASON ENOUGH TO SEPARATE?
Regularly, a client I am meeting for the first time is walking around with the following scenario in their head – they have mentally checked-out of their relationship, and want to know whether to go ahead and separate. You might be in this very position. Your unhappiness has seen you think about ending your…
DISCLOSURE OF BUSINESS RECORDS – MUST THE WIZARD LET THE MORTALS SEE BEHIND THE CURTAIN?
While no two relationships have the same dynamic, for the business owners I represent, there is often a marked division of roles in their relationship. That means that one spouse has often run the business which has seen financial goals kicked, and the other spouse has fulfilled a separate role, such as caring for children…
WHAT’S FAULT GOT TO DO WITH IT – WHO GETS THE BLAME FOR CAUSING A BREAK-UP?
Relationships end for myriad reasons, and relationship breakdowns play out in a variety of ways. Some partings of the way are mutual – each party in agreement that the relationship has run its course, and that it is time to go in separate directions. Others are more one-sided – one party is the one to…
WHEN BLUE SKIES TURN TO GREY – SURVIVING DIVORCE IN YOUR RETIREMENT YEARS
For many of us, we work through our careers with one eye on our retirement. What we will do when we finally say goodbye to the working week, and put our feet up. For some, we look forward to travelling the world. For others there are plans to take to caravans and become grey nomads….
WHEN BILLS COME IN, LOVE GOES OUT – DON’T LET YOUR FINANCIAL CUL-DE-SAC BE THE DEATH OF LOVE
In life, we hope for the best, but plan for the worst. We insure against business losses. We have cover for property damage. But we often do little planning for the things which threaten our relationships. If financial pressure is one of the biggest contributors to relationship failure, what can we do to protect, that relationship, our most important asset? In this article I show how a ‘plan’ can shield your relationship from financial pressure, and the steps to take if you are already facing one of life’s financial hurdles.