Life can feel like suspended animation for those who separated prior to, or during, the Covid lockdowns, and have been caught up in a ‘separated under the one roof’ situation ever since. Money can be tight for those on furlough or reduced hours, and rental accommodation can be hard to come by, creating a strange…
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SO YOU ARE SEPARATED … BUT ARE YOU STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EX, WITHOUT KNOWING IT?
Relationships fall on a spectrum of emotions, and our default view is to see them at their most positive – people form, and remain in, relationships and marriages when they are in love. But at the other end of that spectrum lies love’s equal and opposite number, hate. When people separate, it is natural…
REVENGE – A DISH BEST SERVED … NOT AT ALL
When people who have separated first see a family lawyer, they are, understandably, experiencing the full gamut of emotions – shock, despair, anger. How they feel can change from hour to hour, and day to day. As their case progresses, their feelings can become more fixed. Some feel an acceptance, and simply want to…
I’M NOT SIGNING THIS! WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR PRE-NUP SEEMS LIKE A BAD DEAL
(This article is Part 3 in the series ‘Pre-Nups – The Death of Love?’ – parts 1 and 2 can be seen as earlier posts at http://www.danbottrell.com ) Well-drafted pre-nups (Financial Agreements) can be a useful tool to help separating couples avoid seeing the inside of a courtroom. They can specify, in advance of…
MY FAMILY LAW CASE IS STALLED – HOW DO I GET TO A SETTLEMENT?
January inevitably begins with palpable gusto. For business owners and entrepreneurs, there are new targets to hit, new products to launch, new markets to tap into. For professionals, there are new year’s resolutions to advance their careers and improve their personal lives. For parents, there are goals to achieve for their kids’ education and…
DROWNING IN YOUR DIVORCE? TIME TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT
Old adage, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The same is true of your separation and divorce. When I meet people for the first time, they often tell me that they are feeling overcome. There are so many problems, and they seem to grow by the day. They…
TAKE A HOLIDAY FROM YOUR DIVORCE
Enduring a separation or divorce is one of the most emotionally intensive events of one’s life (second only, in my experience, to renovating a bathroom). Ironically, planning a wedding is so intense that we need to have that little sojourn afterwards, called a ‘honeymoon’. So why don’t we take a planned holiday from…
10 WAYS REAL ESTATE AGENTS CAN KEEP A DIVORCE SALE ON TRACK
Real estate agents often become involved at a crisis point in the life of their vendors – when they are going through separation and divorce. As a family lawyer, I’m used to being in that crossfire, but as a real estate agent, it might feel like you have been pulled into the vortex of…
‘I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!?!? – AVOIDING DECISION-MAKING PARALYSIS IN YOUR DIVORCE
Separation and divorce puts strain on us as people, and that strain magnifies our strengths, as well as our weaknesses. One such area I see as a family lawyer is how people embrace the decision-making that goes with resolving financial issues after family breakdown – the myriad decisions, big and small, which must be…
HOW TO GET A PRE-NUP OVER THE LINE
This article is Part 2 in the series ‘Pre-Nups – The Death of Love?’. So, you want in a pre-nup (in Australia, called a ‘Financial Agreement’) in place? If ‘yes’, you aren’t alone. More and more people are thinking about them, and putting them in place when they marry, they begin new relationships,…
PRE-NUPS…THE DEATH OF LOVE?
I’ve heard them described as the ‘death of love’. Pre-nups, or as we call them in Australia, Financial Agreements – documents which describe a financial outcome in respect of a marriage or de facto relationship if the worst happens, and things fall apart. Financial Agreements are a part of Australian family law. Couples are…
IS BEING ‘UNHAPPY’ REASON ENOUGH TO SEPARATE?
Regularly, a client I am meeting for the first time is walking around with the following scenario in their head – they have mentally checked-out of their relationship, and want to know whether to go ahead and separate. You might be in this very position. Your unhappiness has seen you think about ending your…